I love my best friend!

Dear Natalie

Can men and women just be friends?

I’m in love with my best friend who happens to be a guy!
Is there a way to tell a guy you love him, yet still maintain a great friendship if he isn’t interested in you as more than a friend?

Thanks Penelope





Dear Penelope,

Thanks for your letter.

Telling your friend how you feel is incredibly risky!
The only way you can be certain whether it’s worth it, is if the possible benefits outweigh the risks-
Answer my simple Q’s and remember to be very honest with yourself…

1/ Is it real love?
a/ Do I really love him in a romantic way.
b/ Do I just love the way his attention makes me feel when we are together?

2/ Does the thought of kissing him make you-
a/ Feel very excited and have that feeling of butterflies in your stomach.
b/ Feel a bit weird, like kissing your brother.

3/ Are these feelings you feel for your best friend-
a/ Surfacing on their own.
b/ They are a direct result from a bad break up with an ex boyfriend, or a result of feeling jealous that your best guy friend has a new girlfriend and he’s not paying much attention to you?

If you answer mostly A’s, then try to analyze the following-

1/ If you met a few months ago and became best friends very quickly, and now you spend every moment hanging out together-there’s a good chance he feels romantic feelings for you too!

2/ If you’ve known each other since pre-school, it’s probably more than likely that he doesn’t like you more than a friend and you should stick to a platonic friendship. He probably doesn’t see you like that.

3/ Does he act flirtatious with you or does he act like a best friend or brother?

4/ Has he ever brought anything up-even in a joking manner about what it would be like to be in a relationship with you?

5/Does he act jealous when you’re in a relationship with a guy?


If your answers to the above lead you to believe that he might be interested in you romantically, then this just may be the start of a whole new chapter in your relationship.
Relationships that are built on strong friendships are definitely the best kind!

I hope my suggestions help you decide if it’s worth the risk and give you an idea of how to approach the conversation with him.

Good luck!

Natalie