Take The Commitment Test

Dear Natalie

How do I know if my boyrfriend will commit to me and one day ask me to marry him?
We've been dating for 2 years now and I really want to marry him, but I'm not sure if HE does? What should I do?

Jennifer.


Dear Jennifer,

Try this test and your end score should give you a clearer indication of where you stand with him.


Natalie x


Does He Want Commitment?


1. Choose the answer that best reflects your guy's relationship history:


a) He's had a handful of serious girlfriends, but broke things off when he realized that they weren't "the one."

b) He's dated a few women, but the relationships haven't lasted past 3 months or so.

c) Cartons of milk have a longer shelf life than his so-called "relationships."



2. You invite him to be your guest at a friend's wedding that is six weeks away. He responds:

a) “Oh wow! that's a long time from now. I'm still trying to decide what I want to do tomorrow."

b) "Let me check my calendar and get back to you."

c) "Count me in! Tux or suit?"


3. You and your guy are walking down the street when he bumps into a good friend of his whom you haven't met yet. He:

a) ...introduces you nervously: "Hey, Davd, this is, um, uh, Jennifer. Jennifer this is my best buddy from college, David."

b) ...carries on a five minute conversation with his friend without introducing you or even acknowledging your presence, while you stand by, feeling awkward and dismissed.

c) ...proudly puts his arm around you and says, "David, I'd like you to meet my girlfriend, Jennifer And David replies, "Wow, so you're Jennifer! I've heard so much about you."

4. After a week of your guy acting strange and a little distant, you decide to ask him, "Is everything ok with our relationship?" He replies:

a) "We're fine. I've just got something on my mind that I'd rather not talk about."

b) "Everything's great with our relationship. I'm just really stressed about work. Thanks for asking."

c) "What do you mean by 'relationship?'"


5. When the topic of marriage comes up (hypothetically in conversation, on TV or in a movie, etc), he says:

a) "I could see us married one day... can't you?"

b) "Marriage is so old fashioned! I'm never getting tied down."

c) "Sure I want to get married ... Once my career is established and I've saved some money and I've had enough time hanging with the guys and done some traveling -maybe then.


Scoring:1. a = 4 b = 2 c = 02. a = 0 b = 2 c = 43. a = 2 b = 0 c = 44. a = 2 b = 4 c = 05. a = 4 b = 0 c = 2
Now add your points from each question.

If your total is:16 - 20 ..... 100% Capable of Commitment. While he may not be completely certain of what his future holds, he definitely sees you in it! Keep the lines of communication open and you should have no trouble staying on the same page.

8 - 14 ..... On the Fence. He's not opposed to the idea of commitment - he's just not ready to seriously consider how it fits into his life just yet. If you're in the early stages of dating him, you enjoy the time you spend together and are comfortable with just "seeing where it goes," there's nothing wrong with continuing to go out with him. Just be prepared to move on if you get to the point where you're sure you want something more serious and he doesn't.

0 - 6 ..... Commitment Phobic. Whether he just doesn't see you as long-term girlfriend material or he's got deep seated issues/fear about the *concept* of commitment in general, this guy is probably a lost cause. If he's so concerned with having his "freedom," you might want to free yourself up to meet someone who will recognize what a catch you are and is happy to commit himself to you wholeheartedly!